LDR

Long Distanced-Relationship, many people don’t have to ask what this term means. But for me, it means: a (romantic) relationship between a girl and a boy, and the distance between them doesn’t allow them to meet constantly once in a day, or once in two days, etc. But, if you want some deeper explanation, well, for me LDR means a kind of ‘test’ to prove how strong the feeling and commitment a couple have. It’s such a mixture of feeling, desire, and your self-control. Here are its ingredients:

1. Torturous

What do you feel when you feel lonely, and they aren’t beside you, to hold you, to speak to you, to calm you, to make you laugh? What do you feel when you want to hear their voice so badly you stay up waiting for a telephone call? What do you feel when you text them asking what they’re doing and they don’t reply it? What do you feel when you know that they do something fun with their friends while you feel empty needing them so bad? What do you feel when you both say you miss each others so, but you can do anything?

2. Sprinkling

Then you start being mad at them, you both start blaming each other, even blaming the distance, the situation. You start having bad thoughts in your head, even saying bad words in your heart. You decide to ignore them, act like you don’t need them. You want them to feel the same as you feel so badly.

3. Understanding

 But then you realize, they feel lonely too sometimes, want you to hold them, make them laugh, cheer their day, but you’re too busy doing your own business. You realize that they want you to call them, but you just forgot because there are too many things in your head. You realize you postpone replying their text because you’re just too tired to type on your phone, or it’s just run out of power. You realize, sometimes you leave them alone far away there while you’re laughing together with your friends. You realize, they have a life too. You realize that (maybe) they feel the same.

4. Strength

Those torturous feeling now become your bestfriend. The razor feels not as sharp as before. You have a shield, you have an armor and a sword to fight them, and it’s faith. Those tears and sadness are too precious to be just swept away. Suddenly the bond between you is growing stronger and hardly breakable, too many memories, too many precious things.

Sometimes, a long distance can cripple your relationship, but sometimes it can save it too. It surely depends on your faith, and your commitment. Sometimes it’s torturous, but sometimes it’s fun. The most important thing is, a failure, or a frustration, or a difficulty would make you learn, and be a better person.

Kamu…membuatku jadi semakin rindu, sekali saja sebutlah namaku. Setidaknya aku tahu ada aku dalam ceceran aksaramu.

Aku bukan pengemis Syurga, maka berhentilah bicara tentang Tuhan, dosa, benar-salah, agama, doa, ibadah dan segala kitab yang kau baca. Aku bukan setan yang akan memanas ketika kau lantun Ayat suci lantas menjadi abu. Aku bukan najis yang ketika kau sentuh akan menumpuk dosa. Sebut saja aku perempuan yang lahir dari rahim perempuan dan ditikam mati oleh perempuan. Sudah, itu saja…

- Dalam Kisah Perempuanku

Terlalu banyak waktu yang membuatku pilu, terlalu banyak rasa yang membuatku ragu, terlalu banyak bisu yang menyisakan rindu

- Antara jarak dan temu

Dian Sastrowardoyo

So, I was taken this information from her blog, Dian is one of my favorite actress, smart and joyfull (i guess).

I could not agree more with Dian quoting that Donald Kauffman, a fiction character from Adaptation: “You are what you love, not who loves you..” ah, j’adore Dian Sastrowardoyo.. (kapan ya bisa ketemu??)

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 DIANDRA PARAMITHA SASTROWARDOYO

Birthday: March 16, 1982.

Activities: Studying, ngasistenin dosen Epistemologi, Acting, Writing, Band, read novels, sleep, watch DVDs, Blackberry chatting.

Interests: a tosca green or purple jazz master Fender electric guitar, gadgets, DVDs, batik apparels, cultural traveling, postmodernism, critical theory discourse, scholarships, film making, cultural studies discourse, gender studies, Michel Gondry’s work, art and designs, colors, Latin American music, karaoke, sambel pedes, duren, kerupuk asinan.

Favorite Music: SondreLerche, Miles Davis, Jimmy Hendrix, New Young Pony Club, Terence Trent D’Arby, TOR, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Jack Johnson, Pat Matheney, Dave Matthews Band, Quincy Jones, Her Space Holiday, Postal Service, Nick Cave and The Bad Seeds, Buena Vista Social Club, Corrine Bailey Ray, India Arie.

Favorite TV Shows: Everybody Loves Raymond, Seinfeld, Grey’s Anatomy.

Favorite Movies: Into The Wild, La Vie En Rose, I’m not There, Persepolis, Namesake, No Country for Old Men, Pride and Prejudice, Lust Caution, Personal Velocity, Love and Cigarettes, Closer, Clockwork Orange, Science of Sleep, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Being John Malkovitch, Adaptation, Little Children, Memories of Matsuko, Running with Scissors, Rindu Kami PadaMu (Garin Nugroho), Marie Antoinette, Berbagi Suami, Shower, Marie Antoinette, Space Odissey, High Fidelity.

Favorite Books: Embroderies and Persepolis by Marjane Sartrapi, The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kundera, To Kill A Mocking Bird, Norwegian wood by Haruki Murakami, Keberangkatan and Pada Sebuah Kapal by Nh. Dini, Gadis Pantai by Pramoedya Ananta Toer, Calon Arang by Toeti Heraty, The God of Small Things, The Alchemist, Saman, Larung.

Favorite Quotes: “You are what you love Charlie, not who loves you..” by Donald Kauffman in Adaptation.

Pendidikan adalah eskalator sosial ekonomi, sebuah instrumen rekayasa struktural masyarakat masa depan

- Anies Baswedan

there is no such thing as love, it just fantasy.

- (500) Days Of Summer - Summer Finn